palladium's picture

Well...local men find western women overwhelming because in general western woman start to have relationships with men at a much younger age. More experience and more men in the past doesnt translate as more sexy to local chinese men. Actually most local men if they have honest intentions want to have a 'pure' girl. In many cases some expat women just fool around with local chinese men...some would never tell their friends or relatives back home that they are together with a chinese ....god knows what would happen to your reputation once you go back to your country. Italian girls like italian guys ....mediterranean guys....some brazilians, blacks , cubans etc. Never have i heard of an italian woman talking about the 'hot chinese guys' ....come on be real. Asian woman are popular all ove rthe world....its a very different thing when it comes to asian guys. By the way , I am mixed. Half caucasian , half overseas chinese.

Id like to meet the writer in person and explain the fact that some of our local boys are not just to "fulfil a certain fantasy".
lilkuo's picture

I love that, 'a distinct lack of nice men.' pjsheeps, whatev-- you're going to Africa where you'll meet lots of distinct, nice men! The dating pool in Beijing is smaller. The people who have decided to move here are decidedly more eccentric, or maybe in a more self-centered phase ('I need to find myself' etc), so meeting someone isn't top priority. But I don't really think it's a bad place to meet people. You're in a different set-up than somewhere like London or New York. There aren't the same rules, everyone's outside of their comfort zone. You'll meet and be interested in people that you would've never been in contact with back at home. The whole game is different and maybe you'll find yourself doing new things and in situations you wouldn't have imagined. Doesn't that sound fun?? And isn't that why we all came out here anyway? Anyway, Beijing is full of uncool expat boys. There's got to be a few nice ones in there. If you meet one, maybe give him a shot.
pjsheeps's picture

I actually haven't compromised my standards at all, which I'm quite proud of. But at the same time, I've been single for the past year.... and by single I mean not a single hook up or date. Sounds difficult, but giving the sad selection it's easier than you think.

Yes, it's all true, and I for one would be much happier if all the bitter expat ladies caught the next plane home.