As Ice Cube famously said, “life aint nothin’ but bitches and money”, and while some women may ‘tut’ and say that rap music is nothing but misogyny with a melody, they should ask the realist inside of them whether their lives ‘aint nothin’ but crotches and money’.
As the tabloids have a field day over Chelsey Davy's alleged ‘dumping’ of the little English rascal, Prince Harry, a popular topic of conversation amongst my friends and I has been whether or not we would ever do the same. If you married a prince, you wouldn’t have any money worries again for the rest of your life, but is financial security really a good enough reason to marry someone?I think that I was 10 when I realised I was never going to meet and marry a prince. I found that even if a boy has got a lot of money, you won’t necessarily get away with not paying your share. And rightly so, I guess. I mean, why shouldn’t women pay for their share? But there’s just something about this whole equality thing that has sucked the romance out of that romantic meal at a fine restaurant, and that dreamy weekend away for two. My friend is a successful young professional, and has been independently living in her own 2 bedroom house since she was 22. She has a nippy little sports car and an even nippier shiny motorcycle. Needless to say, she lives quite comfortably. The cherry on the trifle came about when she met a sexy fireman and they fell in love. However the fireman was more relatively ‘challenged’ in the financial department, and their differing bank balances have become the underlying issue in a majority of their arguments. He feels emasculated by the fact that he’s still dependent on his parents and that she pays for everything when they go out together, and my friend is doubting whether she could actually consider a mortgage and marriage with a man who can’t offer her the security she feels she needs.
Despite the changes western and eastern societies have gone through, we still haven’t moved on from expecting the male to be the bread winner and the female wanting to feel financially secure by her husband. And so, it’s unsurprising that finance has become a valid and very popular reason for divorce these days.
Being unmarried and dependent free at this point in my life, I’m still quite taken with the idea that “If you have Love you don't need to have anything else” (Sir James Barrie), which in hindsight becomes rather insignificant when you start looking at property prices.Is money an important factor in a relationship, and should the man always earn enough to support his lady? What do you think..?
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