Ask a majority of the expat women in Beijing about their dating habits and they will tell you the same thing; that there is a distinct lack of nice men in Beijing, and how they all end up dating men whom, if they were in their home country, they would never have given a second glance.
The lucky, lucky expatriate men find that in Beijing they have super powers. Suddenly they’re getting all this attention from pretty Chinese girls. The female expat community watch in horror as they see the class nerd strutting down Sanlitun like he’s John Travolta, and feel their standards slip even further down their leg as they find themselves thinking, “hmm, he’s looking quite hot tonight.”
And so, with no pressure on them to have a girlfriend, and with the guise of being here to “concentrate on their careers”, expat men love living in Beijing. To them, Beijing is like that place in Pinocchio where all the naughty little boys can smoke, drink and party practically free of charge. The added bonus with being in Beijing and not that place is that they can have cheap sex, eliminating the need for the arduous task of dating, and at the end of the day they don’t turn into donkeys. Yes, i'm afraid that even if you have been a good boy in Beijing, you fellow expats have already given you a reputation as one of the guys that can't get enough HOT SEX...
Unfortunately, for the expat girls, it’s not such a success story. Unless we are dating an egocentric expat male, we get caught up dating locals, who, to be quite honest are largely into the idea of dating a foreign girl to fulfil a certain fantasy. And sadly, unlike men who can shelve their desire to fall in love, poor expat women are always open to being swept off their feet.
Those who do find love in this city of ours, are few and far between and very, very lucky. This is not the city to fall in love in, but if you want to have sex with a different prostitute every night of the week, then you won’t be leaving any time soon!
Yes, it's all true, and I for one would be much happier if all the bitter expat ladies caught the next plane home.
I actually haven't compromised my standards at all, which I'm quite proud of. But at the same time, I've been single for the past year.... and by single I mean not a single hook up or date. Sounds difficult, but giving the sad selection it's easier than you think.
I love that, 'a distinct lack of nice men.' pjsheeps, whatev-- you're going to Africa where you'll meet lots of distinct, nice men!
The dating pool in Beijing is smaller.
The people who have decided to move here are decidedly more eccentric, or maybe in a more self-centered phase ('I need to find myself' etc), so meeting someone isn't top priority.
But I don't really think it's a bad place to meet people. You're in a different set-up than somewhere like London or New York. There aren't the same rules, everyone's outside of their comfort zone. You'll meet and be interested in people that you would've never been in contact with back at home. The whole game is different and maybe you'll find yourself doing new things and in situations you wouldn't have imagined. Doesn't that sound fun?? And isn't that why we all came out here anyway?
Anyway, Beijing is full of uncool expat boys. There's got to be a few nice ones in there. If you meet one, maybe give him a shot.
Id like to meet the writer in person and explain the fact that some of our local boys are not just to "fulfil a certain fantasy".
Well...local men find western women overwhelming because in general western woman start to have relationships with men at a much younger age. More experience and more men in the past doesnt translate as more sexy to local chinese men. Actually most local men if they have honest intentions want to have a 'pure' girl. In many cases some expat women just fool around with local chinese men...some would never tell their friends or relatives back home that they are together with a chinese ....god knows what would happen to your reputation once you go back to your country. Italian girls like italian guys ....mediterranean guys....some brazilians, blacks , cubans etc.
Never have i heard of an italian woman talking about the 'hot chinese guys' ....come on be real. Asian woman are popular all ove rthe world....its a very different thing when it comes to asian guys. By the way , I am mixed. Half caucasian , half overseas chinese.