The tables turn as Chinese women take to the Net outing the boorish behavior of expat men.

There are certain observations which are profound no matter how many times they have been made before. Back home, there are the ubiquitous queries about why women go to the bathroom in groups, or a high school girl’s inevitable realization that she is, “so much fatter” than all of her friends. For expats, few observations rank as highly as that most divine of truths: Western guys in China are scumbags.

This argument has been made over and over and is gaining traction on the Web these. Back in those heady days when blogspot was accessible, we had two phenomenal examples. The first was the infamous Chinabounder blog, "Sex and Shanghai." A narrative of immoral expat escapades, the blog chronicled the foreign author’s sexual exploits with Chinese women, including his own students. Although rumored to be a hoax, "Sex and Shanghai" inspired threats of decapitation from Chinese netizens. Then there was the Yin to the ‘Bounder’s Yang: China Dirt. With “FUCK!” as the site’s heading, China Dirt’s anonymously written collection of horror stories from expat women might not have stemmed the tide of bad behavior, but it at least offered a sounding board for those hell-hath-no-fury-like-them Western ladies. If your boyfriend cheated on you while you were undergoing chemotherapy, China Dirt was ready to listen.

Aside from offering solace to female readers, the offending men had little to fear. Even if all the Western women in China knew we were awful, did it really matter? But last month saw what may be more than just a hiccup. Chinese women had found us out AND they were reporting it English. On October 15, Mia Lee, who works for Goldmines Films in Beijing, posted the “Wanker Test” on the blog for Sexy Beijing TV “On sites like Facebook I've been hearing a lot about what Western men want in Chinese women, but not a lot about what Chinese women want in Western men,” Lee wrote, “so I thought I'd compile an easy to read list for all of you wankers out there.”

The test breaks down what Chinese girls want and what they don’t want in a relationship with a Western man. For example, according to the test, Chinese women do want “men who enjoy sex with us and interact with us,” but do not want “men who make us do what their Western girlfriends didn’t want to do to them.” Also apparently unacceptable are “treating your girlfriend like a free interpreter,” “spending all money on booze” and demanding that people learn English because “it’s the 21st Century.”

“I believe that people are by nature good, but will act as poorly as they are allowed to,” Lee says. “I feel it is the Chinese girls’ responsibility to stop allowing expat men to behave so poorly.” Lee says she feels terrible seeing expats who would be “losers back home” not only with gorgeous Chinese girls, but treating them poorly, simply because the girls didn’t know what to ask for other “than that they be white.” “As long as that is still true,” Lee concludes, “the ugly behaviors of expat men will never become extinct.”

While yet to tackle the subject in English, Chinese bloggers have also weighed in on the subject. On her blog, a Shanghainese girl who works in an office with expats writes about her experience finally going on a date with one of them. “The French guy was too spoiled by other Chinese girls and thought it was an honor for me to date him, but he was so not cute.”

At Rodine-Art a Chinese guy tells the story of his German friend who loses his mind every time he meets a pretty Chinese girl, marries her, divorces her and then wallows in self-pity. The blogger reports watching this pattern repeat itself three times, but offers little but a sigh by way of advice or judgment.

Another Chinese blogger warns of the ways in which expats womanize innocent Chinese girls: “A Western guy approaches a Chinese girl in a bar. She is very much flattered not knowing that the guy made a bet with his buddies that he would get her number without even buying her a drink.” Though not all of these stories have the ring of truth, they are unified by twin themes: expat men are up to no good and Chinese women “should stop being so easy.”

Lee is disappointed that more Chinese actually in intercultural relationships are not talking about their experiences online. “It seems the Chinese people involved in trans-cultural dating are not very vocal on their blogs,” Lee says. “Most of what is written on the subject are ‘dating gurus’ lecturing about etiquette regarding dating foreign people, and English language tips like, ‘ten ways to tell the expat to stop bothering you.’”

So what does Lee want to get out of the wanker test? “I hope that Chinese girls can raise their expectations, speak out loud about their displeasure, and ask for more.”

That’s all well and good. But what am I supposed to do then?

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