To celebrate the rebirth of “Shanghai Baby,” which rocked China’s world with author Wei Hui’s risqué descriptions of 20-something life in China, as a film starring Bai Ling, we asked six expats to open their bedroom doors and let us in. Here are their three-day sex diaries with every steamy detail.
The Single Guy
American living in Beijing, 32, Filmmaker
Day 1
9:30 a.m.
Wake up to the glory of the morning.
10:25
Take care of myself to the classic “The Devil in Ms. Jones.” There was a lot more hair everywhere in the '70s.
11:15
In the gym I watch a woman in her 40s doing the splits in front of me.
11:20
Watch the aerobics class with a hot instructor. Get a half-wood.
2:45 p.m.
Go to Internet café. The girl behind the counter has a real peasant quality about her, reminding me of when I was teaching in Hebei and slept with one of my student's mothers, who worked in a factory. I miss factory mom.
5:00
Think about calling an ex for some well needed sex. She’s up for anything. I scrap the idea and take care of myself.
8:05
Watch “Will and Grace." That Karen turns me on with her squeaky voice and big tits.
Day 2
10:00 a.m.
Find adult CD-ROMs. My DVD player will not play them. Take roommate's Mac and go to town on myself.
11:15
Clean room. In a drawer I find the headband of an ex and the watch of a one night stand. Think of them both ... naked ... naked with me.
1:10 p.m.
While visiting my neighbor, I consider asking her for fellatio, you know, between friends. Scrap that idea. Too messy.
5:50
Drinking and talking with roommate. I'm broke and am considering blackmailing my ex-roommate’s Chinese girlfriend by threatening to tell him that she is sleeping with other men while he is in the States.
5:55
Drunkenly taunt whiney friend about falling in love too easily and moping about.
11:30
Can’t sleep. Come downstairs covered by a sheet. Show my ass to my [female] roommate. I have a great ass.
Day 3
10:30 a.m.
Wake up hung over and at half-mast.
11:15
Tell roommate I masturbated while using her computer. She’s not happy.
12:00 p.m.
Take a shower and todge.
1:15
Come downstairs with my balls hanging out of my shorts. Roommate screams and covers her eyes. This is a monthly ritual.
2:40
Go to Carrefour with roommate to buy food for our dinner party. Check out at least 10 girls in the most drooling, un-ashamed fashion.
8:05
Have dinner party. Admit to neighbor that I was thinking about asking her for a blowjob. She says I am selfish and that we should have sex so we will both be satisfied. Doesn’t happen though.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
4 self services
The Single Girl
American living in Beijing, 26, P.R. Associate
Day 1
8:30 a.m.
Wake up thinking about involved friend I made out with last night at a very public bar. Need to drink less. And need to not make out with friends with girlfriends.
10:30
Am devastatingly embarrassed about last night. I hope no one saw me.
1:00 p.m.
Jokingly MSN dirty thoughts with former [male] roommate.
7:30
Meet a girlfriend for dinner and gossip about who’s having sex with whom. Resolve never to tell this friend any bedroom secrets as she can obviously not keep them.
9:00
Go straight home to avoid any chance of seeing "make out friend."
Day 2
9:00 a.m.
E-mail ex-boyfriend from work. He owes me money.
12:00 p.m.
Check out shirtless pictures of Matthew McConaughey on People.com.
10:00
Arrive at party. I’ve already had a few drinks and immediately start flirting with guys. There are lots of guys.
11:00
Still flirting. Make eye contact with the hottest guy in the bar. We exchange a few words and I don’t see him for the rest of the night. I am such a loser.
11:30
Continue to drink heavily and get black out drunk.
Day 3
12:00 p.m.
Wake up hung over. Use vibrator and hope roommate can't hear.
12:30
Flashback: "Make out friend" was there last night. Have a nagging feeling that I embarrassed myself, again.
1:00
Have my first drink of the day to stave off any more flashbacks that will confirm my nagging feeling.
1:30
See a friend from last night who tells me I made out with some guy in front of him and others. Oh dear ...
1:40
Flirt with friend (who I slept with years ago). I am a loser and desperate.
5:00
Have a landslide of margaritas and stumble home alone.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
1 make out session 1 self service
The Gay Male in a Relationship
American in Beijing, 23, English teacher
Day 1
9:10 a.m.
My boyfriend’s lying next to me, and like every morning for the past 10 months, I thank God in Heaven that he hates sleeping with any clothes on.
12:30 p.m.
He sends me a text message during class, scolding me for waking him up early. I know he’s full of it though: My mouth is the best alarm clock he’s ever had.
5:47
I go outside to smoke and one of my college students follows me. He wants to talk and asks if I ever get lonely and, if so, how I normally deal with it. I control myself, however, and actually offer him some decent advice. Operation Seduce My College Boys is under way. Run. Just run.
9:41
Surf the Internet at home. The history's cleared, so I know that my boyfriend was up to something. It’s cute, imagining him at home all alone, but sometimes it makes me uncomfortable. Maybe I just need to make sure he doesn't have any energy to think about sex when I'm not around.
1:03 a.m.
His energy is presumably drained.
Day 2
9:20 a.m.
He’s tired this morning so I go it solo on the couch.
3:33 p.m.
Summer in China is awesome. Our campus doesn't have any air conditioning, so during a break between classes I find myself surrounded outside by five or six shirtless 19-year-old boys. I love academia.
Day 3
10:40 a.m.
Wake up and I only remember a little bit of last night. I know that I went out with my students and boss to an end-of-the-year dinner party, where my students proceeded to get me drunker than I’ve been in a long time. Boyfriend is lying next to me; he'll be angry when he wakes up for having to take care of me last night. I'll have to take his mind off it. Better brush my teeth.
1:30 p.m.
Me and the boy are up to two times so far. We’ll go get some lunch, and then the third time is probably just around the corner.
7:17
Third time.
11:05
He’s watching TV in the other room and I’m reading. This usually happens when we have sex too much. I don’t know if it’s because we're embarrassed or a little disgusted with ourselves, but I think it’s a fairly common thing for couples to hate each other a little after sex. At least I hope.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
4 acts of sex 1 oral adventure 1 self-service
The Female in a Relationship
Canadian in Shanghai, 29, part-time marketing consultant, part-time event coordinator, part-time teacher
Day 1
9:00 a.m.
Return to my apartment after a morning swim to find boyfriend still sleeping. I slowly crawl into bed and gently start to kiss him to wake him up.
9:05
Phone rings—it’s a client. That’s not the kind of wake-up call I was looking for.
1:17 p.m.
What am I going to eat? The kitchen is a mess. Boyfriend forgot to wash his dishes. Do I look like an ayi?
3:15
Where is my boyfriend? He was supposed to be home because I’m supposed to help him with HIS project.
4:08
Boyfriend is back. Send documents, run off to teach.
8:15
I’m hungry. Is there anything that is South Beach Diet friendly nearby?
10:00
Head back from Malone’s after a rib dinner. Not really South Beach friendly, but tasty. I have an argument with my boyfriend because he yelled at a beggar kid. Why am I so sensitive? Was that the real reason or just an excuse to start a fight? I must be PMS-ing; the hormones are driving me insane.
11:00
Never go to bed angry. Talk to him, cry, apologize, kiss him and started to play with his “xiao didi,” but he is not responding. Just when I was in the mood ...
11:01
Brush my teeth before going to bed. My God, why is my boyfriend pushing the toothpaste to the middle when I bought this gadget that ensures tooth paste is properly coming out from the bottom. Too tired to have another argument.
Day 2
7:30 a.m.
Boyfriend is sleeping and I wish I could sleep-in as well, but I have a meeting with a supplier. I’m looking at my man’s treasure and see that it is inclined like the leaning tower of Pisa.
7:32
Slowly kiss him and go down.
7:35
Got his attention. We have a quickie.
8:00
Draw: one orgasm for him, one for me.
8:01
I have to run, I’ll be late—consequence of morning sex.
10:30 p.m.
Watch a "Regenesis" episode (a Canadian series) with boyfriend before going to bed.
11:40
His arms are around me: Bedtime!
Day 3
7:30 a.m.
I read that women are usually in the mood for sex between 7 and 10 in the morning. In my case, I’m always in the mood, but mornings are the best. Start teasing boyfriend to get what I want.
10:15
Gee! I’m late again to meet the printer.
11:30 p.m.
Boyfriend wants to join his brother and friends for drinks. Okay, although I’m tired and it’s past bedtime.
12:15 a.m.
Pass out on friend’s couch.
2:30
Boyfriend wakes me and we go home.
3:00
Straight to bed.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
2 acts of sex 1 oral adventure
The Married Man
Englishman living in Beijing, 36, GM
Day 1
7:00 a.m.
Wake up. Wife is already up with the kids eating breakfast.
7:40
Give wife a kiss and leave for work.
4:00 p.m.
Check out a bird in the elevator while going to a meeting.
7:00
Dinner with colleagues. Flirt with a younger, Chinese co-worker. It’s an on-going flirtation, but I don’t think I’d let anything happen.
10:00
Drinks with business associates. Talk about who we’d sleep with in our offices.
12:00
Wife is fast asleep.
Day 2
6:30 a.m.
Wake up holding my wife. I start gently kissing her and I feel her responding.
6:40
We can hear our daughter getting up and have just enough time to get decent before she comes into our room.
6:45
Take a cold shower.
10:00 p.m.
Return home exhausted after a day of tense meetings.
10:10
Wife is up. I hold her as I drift off to sleep.
Day 3
8:30 a.m.
Wake up alone. Kids have private horse riding lessons Saturday morning.
9:00
Work out at the gym. Check out some women in spandex.
12:00 p.m.
Kiss wife hello before eating lunch with the kids.
6:00
Dinner out at Annie’s. Wife is too busy keeping the kids under control to talk or pay me any attention.
7:00
Don’t want to watch another DVD cartoon with the kids, so I hide in my study. I can tell my wife isn’t too happy about it and I'll probably pay for it later.
10:00
Head to bed. Wife is still not happy with me. Turn out the lights.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
1 Sort-of make out session
The Mostly Straight Female in a Relationship
Latina living in Shanghai, 21, English teacher
Day 1
8:03 a.m.
Wake up from some kisses in places everyone likes to be kissed. I stop him. I hate sex in the mornings, I feel completely numb.
1:00 p.m.
Day dreaming at the bank of how good sex used to be when we just met. It’s still good, but like we say in my country, “A new broom always sweeps better.”
4:00
I finish cleaning the house and start browsing on my computer, trying to relax. I type “hot Latina women" into Google. I can't believe what I'm seeing. Get a text in the middle of it from boyfriend saying, “I will be late from work.” Text him back saying, “I’m coming.” He doesn't get it.
4:25
Finish up, feel kind of guilty (can’t forget my Catholic background). I love my Mac, she is the only one who knows my secrets.
7:30
Decide to be a good wifey—I start cooking homemade hamburgers: I love touching the ground beef and squeezing it hard. Cooking is not only relaxing for me, it turns me on. He finally gets home. He's happy with dinner. We have a few drinks as we eat. He asks what’s for dessert. I tell him: “Light some candles and I'll show you.”
8:45
Candles on, pants off. I look for the popsicle as I call it. He loves it.
9:15
I get on top.
Day 2
11:15 a.m.
No action during the day. I was exhausted. Have time to take a nap, but can't fall sleep. I need to relax so I think about that cute girl I saw on the elevator today—nice cleavage, wish I could have touched it. What am I thinking! Oh well, it helped. One self-service and I fall asleep.
7:19 p.m.
Wake up and my boyfriend is next to me, wanting to play around. I am too tired still, plus I was already satisfied by the fantasy of the girl. Sorry honey, maybe tomorrow night.
Day 3
11:30 a.m.
His dad is coming in 15 minutes. We have a quick 10 minute session. Short and sweet. Just how I like it.
4:00 p.m.
We have a coffee with his dad. I go to the bathroom, my boyfriend follows me. I wonder if the spicy Sichuan food heated us up? A quick blow job in a public bathroom. No class at all.
9:00
Go home, work on the computer. Go to bed, hugs start. But we are both too tired. Once again, the day finishes up with a nice hug. It’s good to be in his arms.
3 Day Sexy-Time Total
2 acts of sex 2 oral adventures 2 self-services
Let's Talk About Sex
During Cannes, the overtly sexual Chinese actress Bai Ling strutted around town in a white bikini and furry boots to promote her new film, "Shanghai Baby." While the flick is destined to soon be lost among piles of ¥8 DVDs (the German production has yet to show up on any marquees), we are reminded of the scandalous stir that followed the release and subsequent (initial) banning of Wei Hui's novel on the mainland. The semi-autographical story follows Coco as she ping-pongs between two men, her impotent Chinese love and her worldly German lover, giving the West a look at a steamy Shanghai and the new 20-somethings who just want to party. Tame ("Kissing with the tip of the tongue feels like ice cream melting. It was he who taught me that a kiss has a soul and colors all its own.") compared to the racy literature of the West (Henry Miller anyone?), Wei Hui did get people talking about sex. And while it may not be a great literary feat, "Shanghai Baby" did open the dialogue and get things rolling in China.
This article is pathetic! I want back the 15 minutes of my life that CW stole from me! Three years ago this magazine was worth something. Now it just uses semi coherent writing as a vehicle to sell sex and door to door "personal massages". The lengths that CW will go to try and attract expats away from Thatsbj.com and Localnoodles.com is truly astounding. Shame on you all for publishing such rubbish!
I have to agree with the guys above, this article is not a highlight at all. I was interested in it at first because - like all expats - that topic moves everyone and everyone makes their own experiences and observations but I think there's much more to it than the obscene, lame and unfunny stuff written here.... not sexy at all!
This is not-too-cleverly pulled from New York Magazine's Sex Diaries. See how it's supposed to be done here: http://nymag.com/news/features/2007/sexandlove/30917/
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Let me say that I had to sign up to receive loads of junk mail just to comment on the ridiculousness of this article. Are we 13 and does anyone really want to know how many times an old white guy "takes care of himself'"'?! I'm disgusted that a magazine which represents the foreign community puts an article on the front page about blowjobs in public bathrooms. I have a great idea!! You should take a weekly survey recording the number of times people masturbate a day. Then we just add a quick little weekly update column on the averages, high, lows, and any exciting breakthroughs.