City Weekend Family Matters columnist Fiona Huang considers the Chinese tradition of yuezi and how expat mothers can hire yuesaos to provide postpartum care.

For the birth of my son, Liam, I returned to San Francisco and flew back to Shanghai, alone with the baby, a month later. All I remember of this period is a stressful whirlwind of doctors’ appointments, social engagements, last-minute shopping, packing and errands–squeezed in between hourly breastfeeding sessions. Likely in reaction to this traumatic experience, I have become fascinated with the ancient Chinese tradition of zuo yuezi (“sitting the month”) as my May 1 due date for my second baby approaches.

Then and Now

Zuo yuezi requires that, for about a month after delivery, new mothers remain inside, in bed, without entertainment. Bathing, washing hair, brushing teeth and all forms of stress, including crying and shouting, must also be avoided. Moms must refrain from eating “cold” foods like fruits, vegetables and ice cream, cover their heads to prevent chills and keep the windows closed. They must load up on “hot” foods like boiled eggs, chicken and fish soup. Adhering to yuezi, the Chinese believe, is critical to a woman’s long-term health.

Modern Chinese moms follow this practice, albeit sometimes more loosely. Local mom Shirley Bao explains: “Almost every Chinese new mother has to do it … the difference is to what extent they follow the rules.” Bao admits, during her month she showered, read, watched TV, used her computer and ventured onto her balcony. Even celebrities “sit the month.” China Daily reported that actress Bao Lei spent Y380,000 to zuo yuezi last year at the Shanghai Xin Yue Hui Noble Yuezi Center, which apparently offers luxury, resort-like facilities.

Expat Moms Go Local

Expatriate moms can sample local traditions by hiring a yuesao, an ayi specializing in zuo yuezi. Local employment agencies can provide yuesaos who live in your home, cook and care for you, 24/7, for RMB3,000-5,000 a month. In addition to teaching you the Chinese ways, your yuesao can help you with newborn care and breastfeeding. Communication with the Chinese-only speaking yuesaos might be challenging for some. Fears about cultural differences, however, should not discourage you. According to expat mom Wendy Hsia, her yuesao “only offered suggestions, but it was up to me if I wanted to follow.”

Adventurous moms-to-be may want to consider zuo yuezi, as women supposedly emerge from their rest period stronger and healthier, mentally and physically. Personally, my lack of discipline and willpower prevents me from successfully sitting the month. My compromise is to keep the zuo yuezi spirit and take it a little easier this time around.